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"Put the child at the center of it," the former MTV host noted. "Put your pride, your ego, your own personal feelings to the side and make the child or children at the center of it. As long as Kiyan is at the center of it for me, I'm able to navigate whatever is gonna make him happy and make him a better man growing up, a better human, better when it comes to family."

As for how the La La's Full Court Life alum celebrates come Christmas time? Surrounded by lots and lots of family.

"We are always together," she explained, "and when you get a house of crazy Puerto Ricans, a lot of things happen. For Thanksgiving, I had 35 family members at my house. I live in New York, my house does not fit 35 people. But that's how we grew up. Everyone is in there, laughing, listening to music, dancing." 

With so many guests this time of year, La La makes it a priority to keep her and Kiyan healthy with Delsym.